Sometimes faith is the absence of fear.

Other times faith may be choosing to believe God even when your heart is melting with fear.

Maybe faith is tested by what we do with fear,

not whether or not we have it.

--Beth Moore Breaking Free

Getting over someone who you're truly in love with is impossible.

It is.

There's no way around it. You can go months, thinking you're fine, and one thing can bring it all back. One thing. A movie ad, a car, a sweatshirt, a paper clip.

Our hearts link onto small things without us even realizing. We can't be mad at our hearts for this. It humbles us, it keeps us grounded. It reminds us that even the strongest of us can be brought down to our knees.

In the pit of our stomach is a horrible feeling. Like someone took our insides and stuck them in a blender. We want to sleep to escape it, but somehow it follows us in our dreams, and the feeling is waiting there when we wake up.

All you can do is learn to live your life, doing the things you've always done,

by yourself this time.

Everyone says to stay positive, but I think you've earned the right to break down once in a while. It's necessary, and it helps your heart know that you acknowledge it.

So even if you've been strong thus far, take a minute to be sad, because

It's okay.

I LOVE Matt Nathanson, and this song just the same. Just something I felt like sharing. Enjoy. Oh and please excuse the language within the first 15 seconds :)

I always wondered what happened when you

offered yourself to someone

and they opened you

only to discover

you were not the gift they expected

and they had to smile

and nod and say thank you all the same.

I'm not coming back.

It's not because I don't love you, because you know I do.

I love you more than anything.

But all I do is bring you down.

I'm not good for you.

And sometimes the only way to protect the people you love,

is by staying away from them.

The hardest thing I think I have ever heard.

And it still hunts me.

"Do things that average people don't understand. Because those
are the only things worth doing."

--Andy Warhol

Somoene once said that,

"Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside of us while we live."

I could tell you who said it but, who the hell cares.

As humans we're trained to be skeptical, because lets face it,

people lie to us all the time.

The rule is, every person is a liar until proven honest. Lying is bad. Or so we are told constantly from birth- honesty is the best policy, the truth shall set you free, I chopped down the cherry tree, whatever. The fact is lying is a necessity.

We lie to ourselves because the truth, the truth hurts.

No matter how hard we try to ignore or deny it, eventually the lies fall away, whether we like it

or not.

But here's the truth about the truth:

It hurts.

So we lie.

The greatest irony of love;

loving the right person at the wrong time, having the wrong person when the time is right and finding out you love someone right after that person walks out of your life.

And sometimes, you think you're already over a person, but when you see them smile at you, you'll think you'll suddenly realize that you're just pretending to be over them to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours again. For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person. Some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else. Most relationships tend to fail not because the absence of love. Love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much and the other was being loved too little. As we all know that the heart is the center of the body but it beats on the left. Maybe that's the reason why the heart is not always right. Most often we fall in love with the person we think we love but to only discover that for them, we are just for passing time while the one who truly loves us remains either a friend or a stranger.

So here's a piece of advice;

Let go when you're hurting too much, give up when love isn't enough, and move on when things are not like before. For surely there is someone out there who will love you even more.

Everyday we slaughter our finest impulses. That is why we get a heartache when we read those lines written by the hand of a master and recognize them as our own, as the tender shots we stifled because we lacked the faith to believe in our own powers, our own criterion of truth and beauty. Every woman, when she gets quiet, when she becomes desperately honest with herself, is capable of uttering profound truths.

We all derive from the same source.

There is no mystery about the origin of things. We are all part of creation, all queens, all poets, all musicians; we have only to open up to discover what is already there.

Be thankful for every heartbreak, for they were planned. They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life.

And you do.

Have the courage to love without circumstances, to love without end, to love without any condition. Have the courage to love with all of your heart, and to love purely and truly without any blockades.

If you want love, be love.

It's true that you don't know what you have until it's gone.

We are so busy thinking that of love that we forget it works that way with life too.

At any moment, you could lose anything, anyone.

You could also gain anything, anyone.

So take a moment to see what's around you,

be thankful for it, and treasure it now that it's here.

Because you never know when it may leave.

And you never want to waste an opportunity to be thankful.

Before, my fear was being vulnerable.

The ability of another human being to possibly tear apart your insides at any moment was enough to keep me running. He, however, made my insides come alive, my smile become permanent, laughter more frequent. He took away my fear and gave me hope. But more importantly, for the first time in my life, instead of wanting to run,

he gave me every reason to stay.

No matter what, once in your life, someone will hurt you. That someone will take all that you are and rip it to pieces, and they won't even watch where those pieces land. But through the breakdown, you'll learn something about yourself. You'll learn that you're strong. And no matter how hard they destroy you, you can conquer anything, and anyone. But most importantly you'll

learn you've conquered what you've truly lost,

yourself.

Our prayers are always answered, never ignored or forgotten. Sometimes they just aren't exactly how we imagined them to be. God is more creative and abounding in love than we can even understand.

It's best to let him decide what the best way to answer is.

The hard truth is that chances are, your relationship isn't going to last through your teen years. Even if it seems like it will. We all want to believe in miraculous love, and yes, it exists, and you may find it when you're young, but chances are something will happen to separate you two. The love will remain, the hope will remain, but a situation will arise that overwhelms the ability to be together with unbreakable obstacles. Let go, that is where God steps in. If God wants you two to be together, one of you could go to the moon and back and you'd still end up on the same path as each other in due time.

Let go and let God, his plans for your life are more incredible than yours.

Sometimes you have to be apart from people you love, but that doesn't mean you love them any less. Sometimes it even makes you love them more.

I've found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespeare said,

"Journeys end in lovers meeting."

What an extraordinary thought.

Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anymore really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said,

"Love is blind."

Now that is something I know to be true.

For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course, love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there's another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims.

It's called unrequited love. Of that, I am an expert.

In life, no one has ever abused you more then you have abused yourself. And the limit of your self abuse should be exactly the limit or the abuse you'd tolerate from someone else.

Just sayin.

Sometimes, in order to find the right answer, you have to let go of what you do feel and remind yourself of what you deserve to feel.

Can I get an Amen up in here?

That's what my dear friend Kate would say.

When you love someone, you open yourself up to suffering.

That's the sad truth.

Maybe they'll break your heart, maybe you'll break their heart and never be able to look at yourself in the same way.

Those are the risks.

The thought of losing so much control over personal happiness is unberable.

That's the burden.

Like wings they have weight, we feel that weight on our backs, but they are a burden that lifts us.

Budrens which allows us to fly.